December 13, 2008

I don't know who you think I am
But right now I don't really don't give a damn

If there's one thing I wish I could snap my fingers and have over with, it would be wedding planning. I know that sounds terrible, but I'm beginning to wonder if the price I'm paying for a true wedding is worth it. Family drama ... family drama ... family drama. And the holiday season just complicates things - it makes shopping with friends so much harder.

It is exciting to plan, but it is tedious. I can only look at so much ugly in one sitting. Seriously ... who buys this shit? From dresses to invitations, there is a lot of ugly. And expensive ugly too! But I guess you have to kiss a lot of frogs, right?

I did order a dress on Friday. I hadn't slept well in two weeks trying to figure out what I wanted. My stress headache was so bad by Friday afternoon all I wanted to do was eat some chocolate, have a good cry, and go to sleep. After buying the dress and having a little lavender aromatherapy, all was well again.

Being put in the middle between my parents' difference of opinion on money for the first time in several years is something I could really do without. My mom told me tonight that she thought I was irresponsible for letting my dad decide the budget for my wedding (obviously it is much higher than she thinks is appropriate). Apparently discussing line items with the financier as they arise instead of setting a strict number is irresponsible. Is it my fault that my dad said that is how he wants to handle it? And since when do I just spend money without regard for the value of the purchase or the appropriateness of the price tag?

Eloping is really sounding like a good idea...

Posted by Princess Cat at December 13, 2008 10:58 PM @ 10:58 PM in Drama // Permalink | TrackBack

Well, congratulations and best wishes on the engagement and the subsequent ritual you choose to make it legal!

FWIW, maybe eloping isn't such a bad idea? Because if you decide not to invite certain problematic family members to the nuptials, well, your side of the church is going to be kinda empty, isn't it? ;)

I'm rooting for your happiness, whatever it takes to achieve it!

Posted by: Dawn at December 14, 2008 10:08 PM

I can tell you without a moments hesitation that planning and attending my own wedding was the absolute worst time I've ever had in my whole life.

My wife had to have the big wedding. That was almost 40 years ago. Every time I think of it to this day, I start getting angry, anxious and my blood pressure goes up.

I wish you all the best. I hope your marriage is as long and happy as mine has been. I am here to tell you that weddings suck and they always will especially if there are any family members involved.

Good luck sweetie.


Posted by: Assrot at December 15, 2008 02:25 PM

on the bright side... we are all very happy for you, ma'am. And having met the guy... it should be pretty good all around.

Keep in mind through it all... you've both done well.

Posted by: rsm at December 16, 2008 10:37 PM

No, it's not worth it! Run off and get married and come back and have a big party and wear a pretty dress. Save yourself, time, money, and your boyfriend's nerves.

Posted by: Swink at December 16, 2008 11:35 PM