August 12, 2007

You tell me that you're sorry
Didn't think I'd turn around, and say...

Random update... (and thank you, to those that are still checking in on me these days)

When it's too late to apologize. Now what?

I haven't really learned how to interact with and share experiences with people that I have lost a fundamental level of respect for ... not just in the particular situation, but as people. That kind of respect that everyone deserves, just because they are another human being. The kind that goes away when other people decide it isn't worth giving to anyone else.

What do you do when these people are part of your life that you cannot change?

For example:
I have already made it clear that should I ever get married, my dad's wife is strictly prohibited from attending any and all associated functions as well as the wedding itself. I have made a promise that I will have her arrested before I let her take part in something like my wedding.

I can't take that stance with every family member that I think deserves to be buried alive by the very filth they spend their lives producing. But I don't want to go around putting on the nice face while I try not to dry heave from the sheer disgust I feel.

Call me judgey if you will ...
But I also cannot forgive what doesn't seek to be forgiven.

And it's too late to apologize ...

Posted by Princess Cat at August 12, 2007 09:17 PM @ 09:17 PM in Way Down Inside // Permalink | TrackBack

Just because someone is related to you does not mean you have to associate with them. You may not be able to completely get them out of your life, but when you are giving the party (so to speak) you may invite whoever you want. You can also make it plain to others in your family that "only those I specifically invite are allowed to attend" make sure they understand they are not allowed to invite others in the family in your name. (if this means they choose not to attend... so be it).

The rest of the time - you can ignore the dregs. It's tough when people are such jerks. Believe it or not - ignoring them with dignity will drive them crazier than confrontation. Hang in there!

Posted by: Teresa at August 13, 2007 09:09 AM