Some days, other female bloggers just irk me so badly I want to quit blogging completely. The rampant immaturity and mean girl behavior is abhorrant!
You know the ones I'm talking about ... they form their little clubs and alliances and then they go after whoever they don't like that week. And for what reason? The other woman is prettier? skinnier? smarter? younger? she has more hits? It's like high school on the internet!! Do they somehow think this is geeks revenge? Or fat girl payback? The nerds have finally found a social group large enough to be their very own gang ... how cute!
Let me tell you, I was not only a geek in high school but I was also a fat girl. I got made fun of left and right. One year I was the pet joke of the entire Varsity Basketball team. It was awful being a victim, I refuse to be a participant. And I refuse to be friends with people that find it acceptable.
If you don't think its real, just go to a blogmeet. Watch how the women act. The majority of them will strut like they are the Queen Bee. The ones that don't get treated that way will be precisely the ones that blame the other women for it. The gossip will start, the readerships will shift, and some women won't get invited back again ... you guessed it, the nice ones, the fun ones, and the pretty ones. I guess these are the same women that only hang out with friends uglier than they are so they can be the best looking one of the bunch.
These women - and you know who you are - should be ashamed of themselves. Grown women acting with as much sense as their children, if that much. If you're going to hate on someone, do it for a legitimate reason. Call her out for lying on her blog or for being a bitch to one of your friends instead of this "I just don't like her" crap. Its a blog. If you don't like it, click the X and get some therapy if you can't move on.
Next time, try being comfortable with accepting yourself (and being honest on your blog ... we've seen the avatars ... not even close!) instead of trying to drag someone else down. And if you just can't make it through the day without calling someone a bitch, go stand in the mirror for a while. I'm sure you'll find someone fully deserving of your label.
Posted by Princess Cat at August 24, 2006 04:57 PM @ 04:57 PM in I Wear These Boots For A Reason // Permalink | TrackBackI am so glad you said this.....I too have become frustrated with the Queen Bee Wanna Bee behavior...
Not a good example at all especially from grown women....
Posted by: armywifetoddlermom at August 24, 2006 05:00 PMOh, come on now, Cat. You're amongst friends here....tell us how you *really* feel.
;-)
Posted by: zonker at August 24, 2006 07:32 PMI uh... I had no idea. I like being a man.
Posted by: RSM at August 24, 2006 08:25 PMAW read this to me as I was driving. That cheering you heard last evening? Yep - that was me, thanking you for posting this all the way from Chicago!!
You go girl!!!
Posted by: Tammi at August 25, 2006 05:13 AMAmen Sistah! I think you posted it just like quite a few of us feel! Thank you!
Posted by: Moogie at August 25, 2006 06:51 AMwow, and i always thought it was the blogging men that had the ego problems, dang.
i just let the worker bees service the queen and then stay drunk enough not to give a damn. blodge meets are after all the gathering of strangers from hither and yon, you never know what you're going to get.
Posted by: shoe at August 25, 2006 12:08 PMI am so always out of the loop. I'm starting to like my rock under which I reside more and more as of late.
Posted by: Bou at August 25, 2006 03:02 PM... WTF?... ok... what's going on....
Posted by: Eric at August 25, 2006 03:53 PMI always miss the good stuff!
It is amazing how threatened people can feel even on the internet. It's ridiculous, people suck!
Posted by: Tilesey at August 25, 2006 03:56 PMI would certainly hope you are not referring to anyone you met on April 21-22.
Posted by: Laurie at August 26, 2006 01:31 PMI'm glad to see from the comments that I'm not the only one who had no idea this was going on--and not the only female who missed it, either. :D
And I have to second the hope that this wasn't the case at the MilBlog Conference. I'm usually pretty good at "taking the emotional temperature" of a group of people and I certainly didn't get even a whiff of clique-ishness. Then again, I had a list of friends to meet a mile long and didn't really have any time to sit and just people watch...
Posted by: FbL at August 27, 2006 12:36 AMThough I've never had this experience at a blogmeet, cause all the people I've met, rock!, I'm sorry that this is the case.
I know of what you speak as well. Women can be catty, mean, petty, ignorant, self-absorbed and down right ugly to each other, for no other reason than the color of one's lipstick or the curve of a hip.
I'm a big girl, but I wasn't always. I've my share of moments where someone has tried to make me into the victim of taunts, but I've had none of it. I'm stronger in mind and character than to care what they think. And the comments, the negative comments about other women who have done nothing - and I mean nothing!!!! to deserve this kind of treatment, simply makes the commenter look bad.
I've never been this way with other women - those out there who have been, who are right now? Shame on you.
PC - when you fisk, you do it well. I bow to you and hope to have the pleasure of meeting you one day. We'll get along famously.
Posted by: oddybobo at August 28, 2006 10:03 AMOy vey! Whatever happened? I haven't been to a meet, though I have met a couple of bloggers. Look, people can be weird no matter where. Some people dont have a real sense of themselves and so need to either brag or degrade depending on the situation so they feel good about themselves. Why worry about such? They are unhappy or they wouldn't feel the need to drop on someone else.